Tips and Trick for Listening for a successful Communication

It's not easy to be a good listener. Here are a few elements to ensure you do an effective communication..

1. Listening VS Hearing : Hearing is done without any active participation. Listening is a mental exercise requiring active & conscientious participation
2. Demonstrating Empathy : Empathy is one of the main characteristics of a good listener. To respond appropriately, the listener must "read" the messenger & his message.
3. Shutting Out the Environment :To center his attention on the messenger, the listener must concentrate & avoid distraction.
4. Make the message meet : A common problem with having an effective conversation is when each one of the participants is trying to say something different.

Effective communication requires an empathy, open mind, and availability that the modern world does not always permit.
It's the task of both messenger & listener to create conditions that make real communications possible.

" Too often we underestimate the power of touch, a smile,a kind word,a listening ear, an honest compliment , or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around " (Leo Buscaglia,American Author1924-1998)

Taken from Manager Mentor at Aston Denpasar Hotel & Convention Center
Conducted by Ms. Maggy, Aston International Indonesia

Dedicated for someone special..

Dear...
What's wrong with You ?
I really don't know why are you acting like this ??
Even I can not figure it out...
is it something I missed,dear ?

When our lips touch
You feel so fine
I'm alive within your presence
Wishing you were all mine

I want you
But not as you want me
And if I let you go
I know you'd set me free

I can't help myself
I can't help the way I feel
Feelings deep within my soul
Feelings that are so real

Please give us more time
To allow your love to grow
Maybe someday soon
These feelings you too will know

I gave you my heart
You broke it in two
I thought you were special
And your heart was true

I'm not sure now
What I should do
Because I still
Have feelings for you,
I have love for you...,
for our princesses..

My heart tells me
To stick it out
My mind says that's
Not what it's about

Do I risk getting hurt again
And go with my heart
Or should I listen to my mind
And with you I should part

I'm torn between my
Heart and my mind
I'm not sure with you
True love I can find

dd/13.09.08

P.S. I LoVe YoU..(dedicated to My Soulmate..)

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Could tell a LOVE

Well here go
my big plans
to build up this fortress into the clouds
it's made up of my love
and my heart and my blood
we'll make it out

Can I stand with the weight of the world?
Here I stand with the weight of the world
And this is all I've got

I'll make it now or not
It's made up of my love
I've fought so hard to fade
Our lives are meant to make
That's how it goes (it goes)

I wont't fall down
my heart still pounds
I'm breathing now
I won't fall down

by : N/A

What is yours?

VIRGO - The Perfectionist
Dominant in relationships. Conservative. Always wants the last word. Argumentative. Worries. Very smart. Dislikes noise and chaos. Eager. Hardworking. Loyal. Beautiful. Easy to talk to. Hard to please. Practical and very fussy. Often shy. Pessimistic.


SCORPIO - The Intense One
Very energetic. Intelligent. Can be jealous and/or possessive. Hardworking. Great kisser. Can become obsessive or secretive. Holds grudges. Attractive. Determined. Loves being in long relationships. Talkative. Romantic. Can be self-centered at times. Passionate and Emotional.

LIBRA - The Harmonizer
Nice to everyone they meet. Can't make up their mind. Have own unique appeal. Creative, energetic, and very social. Hates to be alone. Peaceful, generous. Very loving and beautiful. Flirtatious. Give in too easily. Procrastinators. Very gullible.


ARIES - TheDaredevil
Energetic. Adventurous and spontaneous. Confident and enthusiastic. Fun. Loves a challenge. EXTREMELY impatient. Sometimes selfish. Short fuse. (easily angered.) Lively, passionate, and sharp wit. Outgoing. Lose interest quickly - easily bored. Egotistical. Courageous and assertive. Tends to be physical and athletic.


AQUARIUS - The Sweetheart
Optimistic and honest. Sweet personality. Very independent. Inventive and intelligent. Friendly and loyal. Can seem unemotional. Can be a bit rebellious. Very stubborn, but original and unique Attractive on the inside and out. Eccentric personality.

GEMINI - The Chatterbox
Smart and witty. Outgoing, very chatty. Lively, energetic. Adaptable but needs to express themselves. Argumentative and outspoken. Likes change. Versatile. Busy, sometimes nervous and tense. Gossips. May seem superficial or inconsistent, But is only changeable. Beautiful physically and mentally.

LEO - The Boss
Very organized. Need order in their lives - like being in control. Like boundaries. Tend to take over everything. Bossy. Like to help others. Social and outgoing. Extroverted. Generous, warm-hearted. Sensitive. Creative energy. Full of themselves. Loving. D oing the right thing is important to Leos. Attractive.

CANCER - The Protector
Moody, emotional. May be shy. Very loving and caring. Pretty/handsome. Excellent partners for life. Protective. Inventive and imaginative. Cautious. Touchy-feely kind of person. Needs love from others. Easily hurt, but sympathetic.


PISCES - The Dreamer
Generous, kind, and thoughtful. Very creative and imaginative. May become secretive and vague. Sensitive. Don't like details Dreamy and unrealistic. Sympathetic and loving. Kind. Unselfish. Good kisser. Beautiful.


CAPRICORN - The Go-Getter
Patient and wise. Practical and rigid. Ambitious. Tends to be good-looking. Humorous and funny. Can be a bit shy and reserved. Often pessimists. Capricorns tend to act before they think and can be unfriendl y at times. Hold grudges. Like competition. Get what they want.

TAURUS - The Enduring One
Charming but aggressive. Can come off as boring, but ! they are not. Hard workers. Warm-hearted. Strong, has endurance. Solid beings who are stable and secure in their ways. Not looking for shortcuts. Take pride in their beauty. Patient and reliable. Make great friends and give good advice. Loving and kind. Loves hard - passionate. Express themselves emotionally. Prone to ferocious temper-tantrums. Determined. Indulge themselves often. Very generous.


SAGITTARIUS - The Happy-Go-Lucky One
Good-natured optimist. Doesn't want to grow up (Peter Pan Syndrome). Indulges self. Boastful. Likes luxuries and gambling. Social and outgoing. Doesn't like responsibilities. Often fantasizes. Impatient. Fun to be around. Having lots of friends. Flirtatious. Doesn't like rules. Sometimes hypocritical. Dislikes being confined ! - tight spaces or even tight clothes. Doesn't like being doubted . Beautiful inside and out.

Just about love...

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